The child’s shyness for the first time manifests itself from the age of a year to four years. Psychologists believe that this is normal when a little person is a little embarrassed in an unfamiliar environment. But there are times when dating, the presence of strangers and communication with peers cause very difficult reactions. If the child is hiding behind his mother constantly, arranges tantrums and flatly refuses to communicate, it is necessary to try to eliminate such phenomena. It is necessary to determine the causes of what is happening, and then carefully work out these situations.
Why the child is shy
The main reasons can be distinguished why the child does not know how to independently build relationships and adapt to the environment:
excessive custody of parents, the inability of the child to make decisions independently;
reproaches and criticism of adults, the baby is afraid that if he does something, he will be punished or ridiculed;
ignoring parents. When the child was always taught not to interfere and behave imperceptibly, he chooses such a tactics of behavior in any situation.
There may also be individual characteristics, but it is better to identify them along with a child psychologist.
How to save a child from shyness
Do not scold the baby for indecision, do not punish. Give him a while to get used to. Any pressure during this period will lead to the opposite effect. Do not tell people that your baby is shy when he begins to hide. Pretend that everything is in order. The kid will understand that there is no danger, and within a few minutes he himself may start the game.
Tell us that you were too shy in childhood. But they gradually realized that it is not difficult to communicate, you just need to try. A child can be inspired by your example. Invent a fairy tale with the help of toys in which the hero is very shy about other participants in the play. Invite the baby to come up with a solution to how to help the hero. And then in life, embody his script.